Tuesday, August 23, 2011

Caring More Than Trust

Many of us in the Carolina's spent yesterday and today watching the various models that meteorologists are using to predict where Hurricane Irene will make landfall later this week.  The Weather Channel is giving the growing storm 24-hr coverage and I'll admit it feels a little like watching the Super Bowl Pregame Show.  Weeks and weeks of coverage for something that rarely lives up to billing.  Thankfully, most of the current models are now targeting areas north of here but there's still lots of room to cover between now and then.

The property manager for the house where I'm living called and asked if I had decided whether or not to stay or leave.   Based on current information, I'm staying.  Still, everyone here is getting ready because even a glancing blow can cause some damage and become a hardship.  I'm stocked up on canned food, candles, batteries, flashlights, and other necessities.  I'm headed out shortly for water, and I've been told to fill the bathtub with water just in case - apparently the power and the water throughout downtown Charleston can be a bit "iffy" sometimes.  I don't relish the thought of sitting in my house in the dark for very long but we'll just have to see what happens.  This is a first for me.

In my last post I wrote a little about some recent musing about the concept of "Trust".  It's a pretty broad topic and one of the cool things about writing about that kind of thing is that it brings out all kinds of people's thoughts and opinions.  I suppose one thing I can or should share is that the events that prompted that "deep" thinking have come and gone and there's nothing bad happening in my world. It's just one of those things.

One friend wrote an email to me to explain her thoughts on the topic which I found well worth sharing:

I like caring about people instead of trusting. I often ask God in my quieter moments just what is trust? Is loyalty or faithfulness trust? Is love trust? Then what happens when that bond is broken?  Can it be healed? Do we want it to? Then there are days when I am so tired/angry/frustrated that I say I don't care anymore.........and the little voice in my heart tells me quietly......stop it.  You care, you always will and yes sometimes you will be hurt......just like everyone else.
Well said.  Trust may get bruised for one reason or another.  But I care, and caring is the more important part.

I didn't want to get into too much brain-food last time but the whole "Trust" thing is part of a much bigger concept in my world that is based on Faith.  Faith is a big deal for me.  For example, I have Faith that whatever happens this weekend with the Hurricane will work out fine as long as I do my part.  I have a similar outlook on life in general.

Trust is not necessarily the same as Faith for me.  I can have Faith even if I don't necessarily have complete trust.  I realize that at some point we're probably just talking about symantics or trying to explain "that which has no words to describe" but I think more of us "get it" than don't.

With that - I need to go and get water.  A Hurricane is a-comin' and I still have gettin'-ready to do.  :)

1 comment:

Sophie Lynne said...

I think the Bard had it right (you quoted in the previous entry.) For me, trust is the last to form in any relationship, friend or no. Sometimes it forms quickly, other times not at all. I have a college friend I've known 23 years and wouldn't trust as far as I can throw him.
Trust is overcoming fear. Fear of betrayal- fear of consequences- and fear of yourself. To trust, you must be trusted, which is a sacred and scary thing. You have to know you won't betray as well and that is a fear on it's own.
Where I am in life, I trust very few. Of those, a couple I trust as I have no choice. Others, because they have earned it. Still others because I need their trust. And the consequences of betrayal right now would be staggering. To quote another Brit- "Half a league, half a league,
Half a league onward,
All in the valley of Death
Rode the six hundred."

I hope that you stay safe with the storm coming, and get out if it turns. Don't be a heroine- Mother Nature can be a very nasty bitch if she wants to be. ;)