It's not that I've forgotten how to do it over recent weeks. The only time I really get to myself at the moment is weekends so I try to make the most of them. I've actively fit as much "me" time into the mix as I can lately which has helped offset the other stuff. This past weekend was totally chill, and I'm totally happy 'bout that.
I'll be the first to acknowledge that much of the imbalance in my life at the moment is self-inflicted. That is, if you want something that's going to cause a "blip" in your life you need to be prepared to actually deal with the blip. Frankly, I'm more comfortable with self-inflicted drama than external-inflicted drama because at least then you've got some say in the matter.
In this case specifically, if I didn't drive back to Charleston every weekend and accepted that I could use the time to get comfortable elsewhere life would be a lot simpler right now. But I'm not willing to let go, and I can be fairly stubborn.
One of the notable features in Charleston are the graveyards. There are some fairly spectacular ones, with notable names ranging from the Declaration of Independence to the Civil War to more current times.
In a city with so much to offer, graveyards here are a big deal. The Magnolia Cemetery is listed on TripAdvisor as the #9 attraction in Charleston. And there are even tours of Graveyards at night - lots of ghosts and spirits there.
The reason I mention any of this is that some of the stonework is extraordinary. I can't help but wonder what the people who are on the gravestones were like. And the landscape for many of these graveyards is remarkable, too.
So, I was walking downtown and took a photo (w my iPhone) of some of the headstones and an orange butterfly comes into the frame. I like to think it's a spirit.....
Anyway, the thing that struck me is that it reminds me of the image on my ankle...
Symbolism is a big thing for me......
There's an article on the CNN website today worth mentioning. The governor of CA signed a law that passed both houses in the state banning gay "conversion therapy" (story here). Gov. Brown signed legislation that outlaws so-called "therapy" aimed at turning gay kids straight, saying such efforts "will now be relegated to the dustbin of quackery."
Major kudos on that one.
But I also noted that the group that actually promotes this stuff - NARTH (see website here) - issued a statement saying (per CNN):
... the law will seriously jeopardize the livelihoods of "licensed therapists in California who would otherwise be willing to assist minor clients in modifying their unwanted same-sex attractions and behaviors." It also will "supplant the rights of parents," the group says.
Ummm. If these "licensed therapists" are dependent upon their conversion therapies for their livelihood it's probably best that they find a new actually useful skill anyway.
Anyway....this stuff makes me crazy.
Speaking of crazy....I've made active efforts over the weekend to pare down my Facebook "flock" of friends. I have no idea how the total number got to 5,500+ but at some point it stopped my ability to add anyone while I was over the FB limit of 5,000.
I normally wouldn't care all that much, but the fact of the matter is that I've got a number of friends and relative who I WANT to stay in touch with who I can't add because I'm over the limit. It won't even allow people to send a friend request. So...I got up early on Sunday and spent some time looking at things.
First off....there are many people who have Friended me who are just plain gone. Those are easy to delete, but it involves looking at each one. Anyone specifically tied to a previous "thing" in my life got serious consideration for pruning, too. HRC and other groups I've been involved with....if it's not pertinent anymore we probably don't need to stay in touch on FB.
Any Friend who is purely political...sorry. Anybody with photos of nudity, or anything I'd consider "explicit"....sorry. FB isn't the place for that. And near the end I was just tired so I wasn't being nearly as careful. Anyways....I deleted over 500 people so if anyone reading this isn't a Friend anymore who wants to be I apologize in advance.
As of this very second, FB thinks I've got 4,999 Friends. I'll get back to work at it tonight at the hotel, but I'm feeling like something that needed doing got done. Pretty sad, but true....